“Each moment of the year has its own beauty, a picture which was never seen before, and which shall never be seen again” Ralph Waldo Emerson
Wow, I’ve never before known so many people feel connection through do much uncertainty. This is something none of us could or would ever have imagined, and collectively we are all needing to learn how to deal with this in our own individual ways. Basically, we are all trying to compute what is happening, but some of this is incomputable which leaves us feeling very confused and uncertain.
When you feel uncertainty with anything in life, from illness, to a job loss or changes within your own environment of safety, you will do anything to find certainty - anything which gives you comfort, whether it is good for you or not. During the current circumstances, you may feel you have literally “dropped” from your own sense of freedom down to the need to crave security and safety, for you, your family and your livelihood, and this drop has been sudden. This means that there is a process of shock for you to go through until you find the certainty to help you to create a new kind of “normal” for you and those around you. For me, over the past week, my certainty has come from connecting more with my family via phone or Skype (sadly not in person for obvious reasons), watching more news‘ programmes than I think I have ever watched before (not siesta a good idea!) and, of course, enjoying chocolate (oh that beautiful word, just reading it makes my mouth water). What have you been turning to to help to give you certainty?
So here are 3 healthier things that can help you to feel more certain in these very uncertain times:
- Positive focus. Examples of this are: watching your children play, learning a new skill (baking, cooking, learning a language, reading a new book, potting a plant and watching it grow), anything which allows you to see and feel positivity. This is especially important just before you go to sleep at night. So read a positive quote just before you close your eyes;
- Exercise (first thing if possible). If you can’t go out because of restrictions wherever you live, find some exercise to do within your home. There are many online exercises you can do to keep yourself fit. Exercise helps the production of endorphins and serotonin (the happiness drug in our brains), so it will automatically help you to feel positive the more you can do it consistently. Schedule time in during the day for exercise, 30 minutes is all it takes and you can get your children to join you too;
- Hydrate. Think of the veins and arteries in your body as a river network. Each vessel, whether a large artery or small capillary requires hydrating to help with blood flow and oxygenation. Studies have shown that hydration helps with both preventing and alleviating the symptoms of depression, low mood and stress, so sipping water during the day will help with keeping you positive and will also help with encouragement towards number 2 above.
“Calm is a clear well that you may draw from whenever you have need” - Maya V. Patel