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Why it's time to meet the most important person in your life - YOU!

All we have to decide is what to do with the time that is given us.​ - J. R. R. TOLKIEN, The Fellowship of the Ring






Time, what do you do with yours? At the moment, unless you are a key worker, you are probably finding yourself with more time than you have had before. This experience is, for all of us, without exception, unprecedented, so I'd like to suggest the in which way we use our time be unprecedented too. This lockdown is an opportunity to do something new, something which you may have never done before, taking a little bit more time for you.

Friends and colleagues have mentioned to me that, although they have felt stressed over the current situation, they are also finding that they are spending more time focusing on what they need right now, rather than rushing from place to place. We, as human beings, are generally moved by either inspiration or desperation; desperate times have called for us to remain at home, which is giving us an amazing opportunity to be inspired to meet the person we see in the mirror every morning - OURSELVES - because, in my opinion, it is only when we get to know and love our true selves that we find true joy in our lives.

My own experience with this first happened when I became seriously ill with M.E./Chronic Fatigue Syndrome in 2004 where I was housebound for just under a year (the illness itself lasted for 8 years). It was a situation which came as a complete shock to me, but because I was so ill, I needed that time at home, time for me and time to start to heal before I could even focus on looking towards a full recovery. That time alone, with just me for company a lot of the time, was a very grounding experience. I had spent so many years tying to be the perfect person for so many people, I had forgotten about the one person in my life who needed my focus - ME. Although these were very difficult times, what I hadn't realised was how essential that time alone was, and what an important step it was to prepare me for who I was truly meant to be (and who I truly was and still am inside). I was pleasantly surprised with who I met, which sounds interesting now, because I hadn't realised the little respect I had shown myself before I became ill.

So my question to you is, how are you spending your time in lockdown?

I’d like to suggest an idea to you. Take some time this weekend just for you. It can be as little as 30 minutes. Do something you have never done before or something you used to enjoy. Be mindful as you do this, be present in the moment and really discover one new thing about you that you didn't know before. May be you will bake something and discover you actually enjoy it! Or may be you will go for a run, and realise that those long cross-country runs you used to do at school weren't that bad after all and you quite enjoy it now! Or may be you will discover something in a book you are reading, something new which has been awakened reading the words in the book. Whatever it is, discover something about you, because there is always something new to learn. Every day is a school day, and this is an opportunity for you to get prepared to meet the wonderful person you are and it will start you on the process of finding true joy in your life.

If you would like some help with this, because you need some clarity and you would like to get to know and love the real you, get in touch. I am meeting with clients online via Zoom or Skype or by phone. Click here to contact me: