Do what you can, where you are, with what you have. - Theodore Roosevelt
When I was working in my corporate career, in a job I loved, I didn't know I needed help; I didn't even think about asking for it. Looking back now, I see the signs were there day after day, but I ignored them, thinking I was OK. Of course I wasn't, I was only just keeping my head above water, and in my mind, asking for help would have meant saying I was weak - a belief system I have since learned was false! The reality of course was that I was a human being who was under immense pressure, in a place in her life where she didn't know what to do. Hindsight is a wonderful thing, the words “if only I had …” have appeared before me on so many occasions since those days and I now know that “if only I had asked for help” things would have turned out very differently for me. The reason? Those signs meant I did need help because a year later I became seriously ill with M.E. and I completely burnt out for 8 years.
I don't blame myself now though, because help isn't always easy to ask for is it? We assume that we’re supposed to know everything, that we’re supposed to have the answers for everything and also we often mistakenly believe we’re not supposed to get upset, tired or stressed! The word “perfection” comes to my mind as I write and that is often the case, we feel we have a need to be perfect - whatever that word may mean to each of us.
Prevention is the key here, so here are 7 signs that you may need to ask for help:
- You are finding it hard to keep control of your emotions, both at home and at work
- You are not enjoying your work as much any more
- Your personal relationships are being affected and family, friends and colleagues are starting to comment on how something doesn't seem right any more.
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- You are becoming more tired both in work and out
- You are turning to other things to help you cope, such as alcohol, an unhealthy relationship with food, self-prescribing medication, etc, etc, where the balance is starting to tip in their favour
- You are not enjoying life as much any more as you once did, you just feel something isn't right and you feel you are becoming separated from the world you knew before.
- Your health is being affected, and you are becoming ill more regularly than you used to.
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If any of the above signs are resonating with you, this could be a sign that you need to ask for help. I was in denial for so long, but the signs were being shown to me regularly. Family, friends and colleagues had started noticing that something wasn't quite right any more, but I kept saying everything was fine. I wish now I had asked for help sooner.
If you’d like to chat about any of the 7 signs above or if you’d like to ask for help, please get in touch.